Judge Me Not...

     Judgement. That's the word I choose to veer away from. People of today's society, judge in every way, shape, and form. If you're not perfect, get ready to be judged! Society is evil. Society can be negative. During Bible times, there was only one Judge, one person whom people answered to when their life was not up to par...God. It's true, in my opinion, that today's society just does not want to acknowledge that it's still that way. I've grown up hearing all the negative about someone, never ever, positive things. This person is evil, that person is not living their life correctly, you need to be more like Christ...hearing this as a 13 year old, I now realize how negative it truly was. 

Who's to decide your life, eternity, and everything else? = GOD

     The definition of judgment: "opinions are usually written by a single judge". How is it possible that everyone wants that entitlement? Why do people have such strong opinions about something that makes them feel the need to judge others? Is it because they were once judged about the same thing as the person they have their finger pointed at now? Thank you society for making it difficult to be yourself. I refuse to justify anything to anyone. I have not done so in 3 years of moving out on my own, and I don't plan on starting that up yet again. I know what it's like to be bullied, I know what it's like to judge someone, and then be judge against. 

J. Cay.

The Quadrants of People...



     It's been a while since I have written anything. It's now October. I'm still deployed in Afghanistan and will be until January-ish. Things that people do on a deployment are extremely interesting. The more I "chill" around this camp, the more I realize how the rest of the world operates. There are 4 kinds of people I have observed: the independent, the dependent, the sleazy, and the down right annoying people.

1.) The independent /  Google's definition: Free from outside control; not depending on another ones authority. Most people that are independent seem to love their status. It empowers them to a whole different level. Independents are usually single, some are also married, and some that forget they have a significant other. Why do people forget that...Is it because people are far from their loved ones that they are trying to find love in all the wrong places? I place myself in this category. I am single and love the life I live. I have a great job, I have a condo that is just fabulous, and a dog who is forever there for me. At this point, being deployed, I feel like I am stuck between independent and the dependent.

2.) The dependent/ Google's definition: a person who relies on another. Before I go into a simple detail, I would like to say...all of what I am writing is my own opinion. I am entitled to it and intend to keep it that way. Now, back to the subject. Dependents are those that need comfort and sympathy for all or most of their actions. I am not stating that they a weak, by all means. My observation here is, everyone needs someone. I think everyone is dependent in some way or another.

3.) The Sleazy/ Google's definition: Sordid, corrupt, or immoral. Everyone is nasty in some ways or another. My personal experience, people are just plain nasty. This is just my observation.  I won't go into detail, but man, some people have no respect for themselves.

4.) The Down Right Annoying people/ Google definition: Causing irritation or annoyance: "annoying habits". I work in a customer service job. I love it when I am not even done with doing my job and someone has to jump the gun and tell me to finish my job. REALLY. Some people just need to pipe down and relax. That is all they need to do.

Just trying to relieve stress and express my feelings. Those are my thoughts for this evening. Peace out.

J.Cay

The One Year Anniversary...

Fabulous!

WORLD! It's been exactly one year since I started my blog. Wowza!  I went back to read all my old blogs and man, what a trip down memory lane it was. :) Another year, another year of more blogs. So excited. Life is getting fabulous. Peace, love and hikes.

J.Cay ( and nope, I'm not kidding! )

Be Strong and Push Back...

     Don’t you just wish you could go back in time a reverse things? I do, on a rare occasion. An occasion that never needed an opinion, a lifetime experience to compete with what you just said or just to be plain argumentative. Casual talk turns into a debate. How do people live their lives like that? It’s foolish, especially if it’s for petty things. I don’t ask for people’s opinions; I am completely aware that people are entitled to the their opinions. I wish I was strong without someone there that I know will have my back. I WANT to be a strong individual. I think I am for the most part, however, you will have that obstacle in your face and you will just have to sometimes...bite the bullet.

Take the bull by the horns!

     I loathe people who think they know more than you and act like they have lived a thousand years beyond your age. Everyone has had those people whom are exasperating, irksome, vexing and the oh so NOT lovely people in their lives. It’s quite an adventure. In a way it’s a good thing…makes your skin tough and unbreakable. Never let anyone convince you otherwise, stick to your guns and push back. I’m slowly learning to push back. I’m tired of being run down by everyone. Get ready world…don’t make this Puerto Rican get outrageous. 

J.Cay

To Be Quite Frank...

     Let me just say this to start off, I have lots of gay friends who are near and dear to my heart. I may not agree with their life style, but I don't judge them because of the way they choose to live their life; they are a human being, just like anyone else. I'm tired of hearing about this whole Chick-Fi-Le crap that's going on. I wonder if the CEO is tired of hearing it as well? Yes, the mayor of Boston may fight them away from place their wonderful business in the city, but who are you to judge someone for how they believe life should be? Who are you to make your decisions based off of one person's opinion? Do we not have the rights to declare our opinions to others? Who judges people in the end, not man, but God does. Who are you?! I understand that some people live their lives like they are night and day...DIFFERENTLY. 

     I don't believe in gay marriage. Many young people and some older folks believe that it should be legal in all states. As for my beliefs and my opinions, I will always vote no to gay marriage. Call me old fashioned.  It's not in my up bringing and it's not how I choose to see life as homosexual. That lifestyle is an abomination to the Lord. However, people of different generations may agree or disagree with me. That's fine, you are entitled to your opinions fully. Bashing people for how they live or choose to live is not for me to decide. Bashing people as to why they are against it is not for you to judge. Only God can judge and I intend to keep it that way. I am entitled to my opinion. My friends who are gay are not foible people, they are strong personalities that will take on the world and achieve their dreams just like anyone. Only slight difference is, one prefers something the other does not. 

     I'm not writing this blog to piss anyone of, but I'm sure I will get some flack for it. I grew up in a Christian home. I grew up going to church knowing that I would be getting married to a man, not a woman. Once I moved out of the house and was completely on my own, I made my own decisions. I am not your average "think only inside the box" type of woman. I listen to people, they give me what they think is right and vice versa. I LISTEN to what people have to say. I don't throw Jesus and shove Jesus down their throat. I would hope that those people would bestow the same towards me. Not many people of my age are Republican/Conservative like, they like the government taking care of them and being inside their lives completely. I like less government involved and more power for people to handle their own insurance, their own property and their own LIVES. I don't judge people who are gay, I don't judge them in anyway shape or form, and I, like I said before; I hope they bestow the same towards me. That's my take on this. I'm not a subject matter expert, but from what I do know, I will express how I feel about it. Bam.

J. Cay. 

Not a fan...

Hmmm?

I'm not a fan of someone telling me I need a man in my life. Why, why, why? So I can be hurt all over again? No thank you. I'm fine and dandy all by myself. The last time I tried to be in a so-called relationship, it fell to the pits of hell. I am fine knowing that no one can hurt me again and again. I'm safe that way. Love is just a history that they may prove. It's pointless. I see way to many of my friends getting married and then divorcing  many months or years later. It's disgusting. If I ever married, the game is always going to end in a divorce. No matter what anyone tells me, it will end ugly. What better way to avoid it than to never be apart of it. Right? That's my view and I shall call it a night. 

J.Cay

From the Trenches...

     Well, I'll be darned! It's been a while since I've blogged about nonsense. HA. Soooo, here's what's happening! My life has a new chapter to add to it...Afghanistan. Yes, ladies and gents, this lovely country has me here courtesy of the US Army... It's not the average person's vacation spot. I'm deployed and life seems to be living from the trenches here. I am not use to the annoying people who stare at you twenty-four seven. Have they never seen anyone in a uniform before??I feel ugly everyday that I wake up and look in the mirror. I'm starting to hate this life. The pay is what is keeping me sane. I don't mind having people carry on a conversation with me, but don't be a creeper. Today was a hard day for me...mentally speaking. I don't even know how to describe the feeling. Maybe something happened that I am not aware of and it's affecting me anyway.

     Life could be worse. I have a roof over my head and free food. I've got people who annoy that crap out of me, except for one person...I work with 3 people. Yup, it's gonna be a great year. I can't complain too much...except for the people who have issues with that dang stare. Lady Gaga is in an awkward way, soothing to listen to after a long day of being vexed. Life in a nutshell from the sandbox.

J.Cay