Detach and Move On..

I was approached with an idea of marriage today. Marriage is what you make of it. I don't account for ever being in such a serious relationship. I will allow myself to be vulnerable right now as I type these thoughts out onto a blog, for everyone to see. My relationship status has been single for about four years. I started dating at the lovely age of 19. I've had a totally of 2 boyfriends ( not serious relationships ) and to be honest, I wasn't really happy in either one. Call me bitter, yes, or no, I don't mind either way. You haven't walked in my shoes yet. The first guy, not great, not anything, just some dude I ended up dating and to this day, I have not spoken to him. The second guy, great guy, long distance doesn't work, end of relationships.

The approached idea was that of me eventually getting married. It's in God's control what happens to me. Right? Right. I appreciate the concern for my happiness, but I'm happy with what I'm doing right now. I have seen all my friends who marry people, Christians or not, get divorces months or years later. Why is it a trend to get married...then have children, and pretend to be happy when you know you're not? 

I ask this person to kindly stop talking about it, cuz it's not of their concern, then out of no where, I get a line like, "don't try to control me". What the freak?! I just ask you to kindly stop talking about something that is really irrelevant to what we were just talking about.  Why are some people so knit picky? I just get tired of hearing it from every which way. STOP TELLING ME I AM GOING TO HAVE TO CHANGE MY LIFE. Let God deal with that. I am fully aware of what is to come when it deals with marriage. I don't want to get married, it all ends ugly nowadays anyway. I mean, am I wrong for asking them to stop talking about something that I really don't have any interest in?

RIDICULOUS.

The aftermath of all of this is, they pull out the novels and novels of what is to come. Then there's the why I will eventually change my mind lines and all that other garbage. Pulling out scriptures of the Bible, which don't get me wrong, I have no issues with, but let go of the matter that doesn't concern you. Why does it involve shoving something down your throat that you really just don't want to hear? Like I said before, I am content with life as it is.  Christians start to shove things in other peoples faces, it bugs the crap out of me. Just let it go and stop giving advice that is not wanted. You're entitled to your opinions, yes, I would just like to have you respect my wishes. Apparently that is too much to ask of you and now I am supposedly a control freak. Lesson of today, people will say anything, you just gotta learn how to detach and move on. 

Keep Calm and Do CrossFit...

Me Doing a "Push Jerk". 

I have decided to get truly fit and toned. Like have a bangin' bod. Sooo. I have taken up this fitness shiznaz called CrossFit. Holy cow! It earns the word fabulous, in my opinion. I have never felt or looked so well toned or healthy in my life. Okay. Now there is talk about CrossFit being a cult. I think cult is too much of a strong word to be honest. When I hear the word cult, I automatically think of some religious, control freak, do as I say, or I'll kill you organization.  Dedication is the word I would like to use.

I think for those that call the CrossFitters cult members, are just the lazy, non- motivated people that lack better things to do. Find out for yourself. I have to admit, they are a bunch of people who are driven and lack laziness. I joined and I am so proud of the results and the motivation that comes with being apart of CrossFit. I have over come my fears of pushing myself to the limit. I've learned that CrossFitters bond together and form friendships that will last. 

BAM.

You have people that are the instructors, the fellow people who are ready to work out and you form a bond. Cult is really disturbing to use to describe CrossFit. You've got a "personal trainer" who conducts WOD's ( workout of the day) and you do it for time. You make it what you make it. If you're willing to push yourself to the limits and allow someone to cheer you on, then by all means, get ready for the time of your life. I'm in full beast mode, and I love every minute of it. It breaks me down, and I still want more! Working out on my own is so last year. Watch out world, CrossFit, here I come! 

J. Cay

Judge Me Not...

     Judgement. That's the word I choose to veer away from. People of today's society, judge in every way, shape, and form. If you're not perfect, get ready to be judged! Society is evil. Society can be negative. During Bible times, there was only one Judge, one person whom people answered to when their life was not up to par...God. It's true, in my opinion, that today's society just does not want to acknowledge that it's still that way. I've grown up hearing all the negative about someone, never ever, positive things. This person is evil, that person is not living their life correctly, you need to be more like Christ...hearing this as a 13 year old, I now realize how negative it truly was. 

Who's to decide your life, eternity, and everything else? = GOD

     The definition of judgment: "opinions are usually written by a single judge". How is it possible that everyone wants that entitlement? Why do people have such strong opinions about something that makes them feel the need to judge others? Is it because they were once judged about the same thing as the person they have their finger pointed at now? Thank you society for making it difficult to be yourself. I refuse to justify anything to anyone. I have not done so in 3 years of moving out on my own, and I don't plan on starting that up yet again. I know what it's like to be bullied, I know what it's like to judge someone, and then be judge against. 

J. Cay.

The Quadrants of People...



     It's been a while since I have written anything. It's now October. I'm still deployed in Afghanistan and will be until January-ish. Things that people do on a deployment are extremely interesting. The more I "chill" around this camp, the more I realize how the rest of the world operates. There are 4 kinds of people I have observed: the independent, the dependent, the sleazy, and the down right annoying people.

1.) The independent /  Google's definition: Free from outside control; not depending on another ones authority. Most people that are independent seem to love their status. It empowers them to a whole different level. Independents are usually single, some are also married, and some that forget they have a significant other. Why do people forget that...Is it because people are far from their loved ones that they are trying to find love in all the wrong places? I place myself in this category. I am single and love the life I live. I have a great job, I have a condo that is just fabulous, and a dog who is forever there for me. At this point, being deployed, I feel like I am stuck between independent and the dependent.

2.) The dependent/ Google's definition: a person who relies on another. Before I go into a simple detail, I would like to say...all of what I am writing is my own opinion. I am entitled to it and intend to keep it that way. Now, back to the subject. Dependents are those that need comfort and sympathy for all or most of their actions. I am not stating that they a weak, by all means. My observation here is, everyone needs someone. I think everyone is dependent in some way or another.

3.) The Sleazy/ Google's definition: Sordid, corrupt, or immoral. Everyone is nasty in some ways or another. My personal experience, people are just plain nasty. This is just my observation.  I won't go into detail, but man, some people have no respect for themselves.

4.) The Down Right Annoying people/ Google definition: Causing irritation or annoyance: "annoying habits". I work in a customer service job. I love it when I am not even done with doing my job and someone has to jump the gun and tell me to finish my job. REALLY. Some people just need to pipe down and relax. That is all they need to do.

Just trying to relieve stress and express my feelings. Those are my thoughts for this evening. Peace out.

J.Cay

The One Year Anniversary...

Fabulous!

WORLD! It's been exactly one year since I started my blog. Wowza!  I went back to read all my old blogs and man, what a trip down memory lane it was. :) Another year, another year of more blogs. So excited. Life is getting fabulous. Peace, love and hikes.

J.Cay ( and nope, I'm not kidding! )

Be Strong and Push Back...

     Don’t you just wish you could go back in time a reverse things? I do, on a rare occasion. An occasion that never needed an opinion, a lifetime experience to compete with what you just said or just to be plain argumentative. Casual talk turns into a debate. How do people live their lives like that? It’s foolish, especially if it’s for petty things. I don’t ask for people’s opinions; I am completely aware that people are entitled to the their opinions. I wish I was strong without someone there that I know will have my back. I WANT to be a strong individual. I think I am for the most part, however, you will have that obstacle in your face and you will just have to sometimes...bite the bullet.

Take the bull by the horns!

     I loathe people who think they know more than you and act like they have lived a thousand years beyond your age. Everyone has had those people whom are exasperating, irksome, vexing and the oh so NOT lovely people in their lives. It’s quite an adventure. In a way it’s a good thing…makes your skin tough and unbreakable. Never let anyone convince you otherwise, stick to your guns and push back. I’m slowly learning to push back. I’m tired of being run down by everyone. Get ready world…don’t make this Puerto Rican get outrageous. 

J.Cay

To Be Quite Frank...

     Let me just say this to start off, I have lots of gay friends who are near and dear to my heart. I may not agree with their life style, but I don't judge them because of the way they choose to live their life; they are a human being, just like anyone else. I'm tired of hearing about this whole Chick-Fi-Le crap that's going on. I wonder if the CEO is tired of hearing it as well? Yes, the mayor of Boston may fight them away from place their wonderful business in the city, but who are you to judge someone for how they believe life should be? Who are you to make your decisions based off of one person's opinion? Do we not have the rights to declare our opinions to others? Who judges people in the end, not man, but God does. Who are you?! I understand that some people live their lives like they are night and day...DIFFERENTLY. 

     I don't believe in gay marriage. Many young people and some older folks believe that it should be legal in all states. As for my beliefs and my opinions, I will always vote no to gay marriage. Call me old fashioned.  It's not in my up bringing and it's not how I choose to see life as homosexual. That lifestyle is an abomination to the Lord. However, people of different generations may agree or disagree with me. That's fine, you are entitled to your opinions fully. Bashing people for how they live or choose to live is not for me to decide. Bashing people as to why they are against it is not for you to judge. Only God can judge and I intend to keep it that way. I am entitled to my opinion. My friends who are gay are not foible people, they are strong personalities that will take on the world and achieve their dreams just like anyone. Only slight difference is, one prefers something the other does not. 

     I'm not writing this blog to piss anyone of, but I'm sure I will get some flack for it. I grew up in a Christian home. I grew up going to church knowing that I would be getting married to a man, not a woman. Once I moved out of the house and was completely on my own, I made my own decisions. I am not your average "think only inside the box" type of woman. I listen to people, they give me what they think is right and vice versa. I LISTEN to what people have to say. I don't throw Jesus and shove Jesus down their throat. I would hope that those people would bestow the same towards me. Not many people of my age are Republican/Conservative like, they like the government taking care of them and being inside their lives completely. I like less government involved and more power for people to handle their own insurance, their own property and their own LIVES. I don't judge people who are gay, I don't judge them in anyway shape or form, and I, like I said before; I hope they bestow the same towards me. That's my take on this. I'm not a subject matter expert, but from what I do know, I will express how I feel about it. Bam.

J. Cay.