Monday, December 10, 2012

Detach and Move On..

I was approached with an idea of marriage today. Marriage is what you make of it. I don't account for ever being in such a serious relationship. I will allow myself to be vulnerable right now as I type these thoughts out onto a blog, for everyone to see. My relationship status has been single for about four years. I started dating at the lovely age of 19. I've had a totally of 2 boyfriends ( not serious relationships ) and to be honest, I wasn't really happy in either one. Call me bitter, yes, or no, I don't mind either way. You haven't walked in my shoes yet. The first guy, not great, not anything, just some dude I ended up dating and to this day, I have not spoken to him. The second guy, great guy, long distance doesn't work, end of relationships.

The approached idea was that of me eventually getting married. It's in God's control what happens to me. Right? Right. I appreciate the concern for my happiness, but I'm happy with what I'm doing right now. I have seen all my friends who marry people, Christians or not, get divorces months or years later. Why is it a trend to get married...then have children, and pretend to be happy when you know you're not? 

I ask this person to kindly stop talking about it, cuz it's not of their concern, then out of no where, I get a line like, "don't try to control me". What the freak?! I just ask you to kindly stop talking about something that is really irrelevant to what we were just talking about.  Why are some people so knit picky? I just get tired of hearing it from every which way. STOP TELLING ME I AM GOING TO HAVE TO CHANGE MY LIFE. Let God deal with that. I am fully aware of what is to come when it deals with marriage. I don't want to get married, it all ends ugly nowadays anyway. I mean, am I wrong for asking them to stop talking about something that I really don't have any interest in?

RIDICULOUS.

The aftermath of all of this is, they pull out the novels and novels of what is to come. Then there's the why I will eventually change my mind lines and all that other garbage. Pulling out scriptures of the Bible, which don't get me wrong, I have no issues with, but let go of the matter that doesn't concern you. Why does it involve shoving something down your throat that you really just don't want to hear? Like I said before, I am content with life as it is.  Christians start to shove things in other peoples faces, it bugs the crap out of me. Just let it go and stop giving advice that is not wanted. You're entitled to your opinions, yes, I would just like to have you respect my wishes. Apparently that is too much to ask of you and now I am supposedly a control freak. Lesson of today, people will say anything, you just gotta learn how to detach and move on. 

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